“What is your worst quality?”
The question feels like one you are asked in a job interview, where your answer is something carefully crafted and practiced in front of the bathroom mirror. Your answer to this question sounds like a flaw on the surface, but it is really designed to make your interviewer see what an outstanding person you are.
“My biggest flaw is that sometimes I get too focused on a project and I lose sleep over it. I am a perfectionist and have make sure everything is done right the first time. Sometimes it can consume me.”
See? Technically it’s a flaw but it’s really a “look how awesome I am, I’ll be perfect for your company” answer. We all use them, it’s how you get hired. Can you imagine answering with “my biggest flaw is that I am completely incompetent when doing things on my own. I don’t usually take initiative and I also can’t share work spaces with others because I have a flatulence problem.”
So naturally, the Daily Post prompt today that asks “what is your worst quality?” made me immediately think of answers like “sometimes I spend too much money on other people” and “I have too much empathy for those I love.” HAH! So let’s cut the crap. No self-righteous look what a good person I am answers.
My worst quality? There is not one. There are many. I have learned to embrace them, and apparently my incredibly patient and tolerant fiance has too.
I chew loudly, and sometimes in a cow-like manner
I can be judgmental of those I barely know
I leave dishes on the counter instead of putting them in the dishwasher
I play the victim and easily put myself into a “life is unfair to me, woe is me” state of mind, especially when I’m tired. I do this less after my year of awesome counseling, but the thought in the back of my mind sticks around sometimes
I have a hard time practicing delayed gratification. When I want something, I want it now
I like Justin Beieber’s song “Beauty and a Beat”
I can be anal retentive and get pissy if something isn’t done the way I prefer/according to protocol
Alright I’m going to stop there before my friends/family/spouse read this and realize I’m not the perfect and flawless goddess they have always perceived me to be. I know, you guys are shocked.
I like writing out my own flaws though. It humbles me and makes me less quick to judge others. It makes me more consciously aware of them so I’m able to work on them and my overall attitude. Maybe I’ll continue my list in a more private capacity, as well as make a list of my strengths so I don’t enter into a downward shame spiral of how gross of a person I am 😉
Wouldn’t it be interesting to poll your friends and family about what your worst qualities are? I wonder if you’d be surprised by their answers, and if several different people would have the same answers? If so, it may be a sign that it’s a good time to reevaluate and do some introspection. If your ego and self esteem can handle it, why not gain some eye opening perspective from those who know you best?
PS family/friends/strangers, feel free to not post what you hate about me just yet, I’ll let you know when I’m ready for that step 😉