Quit Yer Whinin’

I have had it.

I am so tired of listening to people constantly complain about work, school, the weather, politics, their significant other, or any of the other issues that are apparently causing extreme and debilitating unhappiness. Yes, I realize the irony of this post, as I am complaining about people who complain. Don’t care.

I have just about reached my breaking point! On Friday I worked at the school for 8 hours and then at the restaurant for another 8. Needless to say, I was exhausted when I finished my 16-hour workday. Physically tired, yes, but more so mentally and emotionally. For 16 hours straight I listened to two different sets of co-workers complain about everything imaginable. It’s raining, it’s too sunny, I’m hungry, I’m too full, I’m busy, I’m bored, I hate our boss, Kelly is lazy, Jason is annoying….when did everybody become so unhappy? More importantly, why do I have to listen to how miserable everybody is? I have a secret for all of you that like to complain and whine about your personal issues nonstop: nobody freaking cares.

I think I am going to start politely telling people that I cannot listen to their troubles anymore because I am trying to stay positive. As silly as it sounds, negative people really do impact me. I can normally tune them out, but after awhile it gets exhausting. There is only so much head nodding, trying to look interested, and saying “man, yeah, that really sucks” I can do.

Of course everybody needs a good rant every now and then (e.g. this post), every now and then being the key words. If 90% of your conversations are you complaining about something, do yourself a favor and make a lifestyle change. You may think that other people are genuine when they offer their condolences because “your boss is a meany pants and treats you unfairly”, but I promise you, they are secretly wishing you would stop your whining and suck it up like an adult. Guess what? Life isn’t fair.

Whether you work at McDonald’s or a successful law firm, you are going to deal with unfairness, lazy and uncommunicative coworkers, and nasty customers. You are just labeling yourself as an immature, and frankly, a boring person when you constantly gripe. Think about it, interesting people don’t complain a lot. Do you think they simply don’t have things to complain about? Their lives are always fair, always easy, and worry-free? Of course not. They have problems just like the rest of us but they choose to handle them differently. They choose to make themselves focus on the positive, and discuss things other than how the vending machine variety sucks. THAT is what makes them interesting.

I am going to challenge myself to not complain. It does absolutely no good, and it is detrimental to your health and happiness. I truly believe that thoughts become things and the energy you put out into the world will come back to you. I have experienced this first hand.

I encourage you to challenge yourself. Play devil’s advocate to yourself when you feel wronged or taken advantage of. In a crappy situation, don’t immediately run off to the next cubicle and complain about it. Do something. Fix it. You might be surprised at how good life can be when you give it a chance. When you don’t drag other people into your senseless drama, they will start treating you better. It is a snowball effect in the best way possible.

*An afterthought- I don’t want any of my friends reading this to think they can no longer come to me with their problems, concerns, and even trivial complaints. That is what friends are for and I am ALWAYS happy to listen and offer advice. Venting about something to get it off of your chest is healthy, I don’t ever judge people for that. This post is referring to people whose only method of conversing is complaining.

“Generally speaking, the most miserable people I know are those who are obsessed with themselves; the happiest people I know are those who lose themselves in the service of others…By and large, I have come to see that if we complain about life, it is because we are thinking only of ourselves.”
-Gordon Hinckley

9 thoughts on “Quit Yer Whinin’

  1. I’ve noticed as well that people complain a lot. Get this: I was actually criticized for being “too cheery” and that I’m unrealistic because things aren’t always sunny! and happy! and great! And while I agree with the latter, I CHOOSE to be happy and literally, look on the bright side of things.

    People can complain, but there’s an appropriate time and place. Coworkers are not appropriate persons, IMO.

  2. Great post! I just started “the 4:8 principle” this week in our small group study. The study invites you to change your life by changing your thinking. Just being aware of negative thinking has made a big impact on me this week. I thought I was pretty positive, but was shocked at the negative thoughts that just keep hanging around. Looking forward to getting rid of them 🙂

    • That is a really good point! I had forgotten about an exercise that Ken used to have me do. He wanted me to become conscious of my thoughts. He said he didn’t want me to judge them or try to change them, just be aware of them. I guess when you start noticing your stream of consciousness, you really do see how negative you can be.

      Glad you are doing that Bible study, sounds cool!

  3. I’ve been trying to find the silver lining in any situation and it definitely helps me focus on staying positive! Times are tough; it’s your choice to let it eat you up or make it work for you. Thanks for being one of the positives!

  4. Well said my friend! Negativity does impact life and that is why it’s a great idea to surround yourself with positivity as much as possible! Good luck and you know I’m always pretty positive so when you’re feeling down give me a ring!! Hopefully I can put a smile on your face! Love you!!

    • Thanks! Yes you are amazingly positive!! When people complain about their “hard lives” I always think about you! You have two kids under the age of two alone while your hubby is off fighting a war. If you can get out of bed in the morning after 3 hours of sleep and be bright and happy, everyone should be able to! 🙂

      You always put a smile on my face! Love you.

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